There is something happening in the wake of the monks walking for peace that goes deeper than any “just do this” leadership approach I can describe. It’s more than choosing actions within their control. Yes, of course, they’re doing that. But more deeply, they are unearthing something inside of us that desperately needed to see the light of day—our goodness.
They are acting from a belief that something good is already present in us and simply needs a bit of oxygen to grow:
Love.
Longing.
A yearning for peace that exists quietly in far more people than we often allow ourselves to believe.
The monks are not trying to convince anyone of this. They are making space for it—by demonstrating it, by embodying it, by becoming it. Their presence is an invitation, not an argument. And that invitation is being accepted again and again, silently, internally, emotionally, by people all along their path—and by hundreds of thousands more who walk with them in our minds and hearts.
I certainly feel it.
And the emotion that rises in me is the proof.
That emotion—hope, tenderness, recognition—is not unique. It’s moving along the same path the monks are walking, carried in the hearts and minds of people watching from a distance, walking with them inwardly even if not physically. That is influence without force. Connection without coercion.
This is power with, not power over.
Our leadership models often operate through leverage, authority, persuasion, or control. But they are not the only path for leaders who must acknowledge and use power in service of shared goals. What the monks are demonstrating is another form of power entirely: the power that comes from alignment with what people already want to believe is possible.
Peace doesn’t arrive because it is imposed.
It arrives because it is remembered.
The monks are not denying pain, injustice, or conflict. They are refusing to let those realities define the full story of what is possible. By embodying peace, they are creating conditions where others can access their own capacity for love, restraint, dignity, and care.
That is leadership.
And it is far more available to us than we often realize.
Every leader—regardless of title, role, or context—has the ability to choose actions that are aligned, coherent, and values-driven. Actions that do not escalate harm. Actions that do not require spectacle. Actions that quietly affirm what is still good, still human, still worthy of protection.
This does not mean we stop pushing boundaries or advocating for change. It means we remember that transformation does not only come from pressure. It also comes from presence. From choosing, again and again, to stand in our values so clearly that others feel invited to stand in theirs.
That is not weakness.
That is not retreat.
That is not resignation.
That is leadership rooted in abundance—the belief that love and peace are not scarce resources, but latent forces waiting to be activated.
And when they are activated, even quietly, they move.
In Peace,
DeEtta
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